All of the hoopla generated by the launching of Adam’s new book, Man 2.0 Engineering the Alpha: A Real World Guide to an Unreal Life has made me think about what it means to be fit. Being fit requires a conscious choice to live a particular lifestyle. On the surface this sounds easy. But if it was that simple, obesity would not be a nationwide health issue and the plus size clothing manufactures would be out of business.
What causes some people to pursue a lifestyle filled with activity and a healthy diet while others are content being couch potatoes and making poor food choices?
After spending a couple of days with Adam’s fitness colleagues, I couldn’t help but gawk at their lean and muscular bodies. Their clothes did not ripple across any layers of fat. Everything they wore revealed a well-defined body. In some instances, genetics lent a helping hand. Regardless, their fitness goals are considerably different than the average person. And yes, they have not reached middle age. Yet, the most important factor to remember is that they strived to achieve a body type that required more dedication than the average person desires.
The key word in the last sentence is dedication. People who choose not to be fit are not committed to achieve a healthy lifestyle. One has to be motivated in order to consistently exercise and make healthy food choices.
In recent years, I have read countless articles by Adam as well as others who spell out the health advantages for an active lifestyle and a proper diet. If it is a win-win situation, why do people continue to balk at the obvious?
I have to admit that, in the last ten years, I have fallen into this category of the uncommitted. After years and years of modeling a lifestyle of being fit, I strayed from my commitment. It was gradual at first. Initially, attending graduate school as a middle-aged mom of four sons put a premium on my time. Then, an onslaught of orthopedic injuries limited my ability to exercise. The rehabbing made some activities temporarily not possible. When I finally returned to full-strength the excuses began. Yes, I have to admit that I am the queen of excuses.
Before long my commitment to being fit had dwindled to a minimal effort. I found solace in my writing and blamed personal deadlines on my lack of effort. “I don’t have the time,” was a constant refrain.
Living in India had a profound effect on my life. The 2010 experience made me rethink the direction of my life, but it also caused an unexpected loss of weight. Layers of fat melted off my entire body as I suffered from recurrent diarrhea and dehydration. I do not recommend this method to achieve your ideal weight. However, it was amazing to be back to the size that I was in 1974.
Returning to the US brought a return to eating and bad habits. Before I knew it, I had added 5, 10, then 15+ pounds. Clothing which I purchased in India no longer fit. I needed to squeeze myself into the skinny jeans I once proudly wore. Even though I was cognizant of my expanding waistline, I remained unmotivated.
I posted signs at my desk and on my bathroom mirror. I saw the notes every day, but the words became invisible. Gentle nudges and reminders to exercise from my husband and youngest son, Jordan, were ignored as well.
I blamed it on the lack of a plan. After months of prodding Adam to create one, he sent a detailed exercise agenda by email. It remains buried in my inbox. If I have any hope of choosing to being fit, I will need to muster up the commitment I modeled years ago for my children. I exercised religiously and led a healthy existence by swimming, skiing, playing tennis, hiking and biking. Somehow I have to reintroduce this lifestyle and find a way to stick with it.The first step will be to retrieve the plan. The second will require your help. I assume that some of my blog audience can commiserate with my plight. I’m calling upon everyone who reads this blog to honestly assess his/her current lifestyle.
- Have you neglected your commitment to lead a fit lifestyle?
- Are you wearing clothes that are too tight or have you already started wearing the next size or two?
If the answer is yes, please join me in creating a network of virtual buddies who are willing to support one another by sharing information and their stories. By reaching out to others and becoming connected, there is a greater chance to succeed.
It’s easy to blame the weight gain and being out-of-shape with the aging process. Don’t!
Few expect to have a sleek body when they’re over 50. Looking like one of Adam’s fitness friends, Jen Grasso Ferruggia, is not my goal. I’m looking for a realistic plan that will result in noticeable changes, not a miraculous makeover. Oh, but the thought of a miracle is enticing.
Send me a comment and let me know if you’re interested in being part of the tribe of virtual fit buddies. Together we can work together to achieve our commitment to being fit. I’m counting on my virtual network to unite. With one another’s help we can encourage each other to remain motivated and to make choices that revolve around having a better lifestyle.
In addition to my regular blogs, I will be adding additional ones that will address this group.
I look forward to meeting my fellow tribe of virtual fit buddies. Don’t be shy.
Anyone who leaves a comment on this blog by May 12th will be eligible for a random drawing. One lucky person will receive a copy of May This Be the Best Year of Your Life: A Memoir.